Tuesday, January 26, 2010

Today's Question: Would Today's Woman Have the Patience for Mark Darcy's Dating Style (and Vice Versa)?

In the world of today's 24/7 news cycle and the ability to get information at the speed of your Internet connection, today's woman would NOT have the patience for the courtship speed and style of Mark Darcy. Although women (this one included) believe that Mark Darcy is the ultimate romantic, who's got time to get dressed up for parties and not even talk to the interested person until the second or third outing. And, isn't being a gainfully employed, book reading, family raising, dog and cat tending, etc. woman accomplished enough for Mr. Darcy...probably not since one still might lack drawing skills, singing ability and foreign language understanding. "Dos cervezas, por favor?" would probably not be looked upon in a favorable light.

Finally, if you got past all of that--what would the entire dating scene look like? Could Mr. Darcy stand for texting abbreviations or smiley faces? A Facebook public status update about a date would be a major faux pas! It is evident to me that the Lydia Bennett-George Wickham relationship would be much more understandable in today's world!

So, for now, Mr. Darcy, I will resign to the fact that you will remain in my literary library, but not in my very social world.

Monday, January 18, 2010

Today's Question: Does Perception = Reality?

Unfortunately, for most people perception does equal reality. I was reminded of this after attending my first week of sessions with my personal trainer--for purposes of this very public forum, I will call him Rick. During my fitness assessment two weeks ago, you could see the frustration in Rick's eyes as I told him that I couldn't do one situp; at least that is what I saw. I went through the rest of the assessment grumpy and defeated and Rick seemed to casually write everything down with a look that said, "I will never see this chic again."

Much to Rick's surprise, I did return. The first two sessions I followed him around the gym and literally looked at him waiting to show me how to use every piece of equipment--once again, I saw a look in his face that could only be described as hopelessness. By the fourth session, I decided that we needed to have a turning point--I was at least committed enough to this to rub my sore muscles with Icy Hot, drink protein shakes and even come to the gym on my own time--so I confronted Rick and said, "I know you hate your job and the fact that you have to work with people like me, but I want to make this work and if you just had a better attitude, this will be better for both of us." Pretty bold considering that Rick is a mixed martial arts fighter.

Rick looked at me and said, "Well, this isn't what I want to do forever, but I like helping people and I know I'm the best trainer here. Some of my clients want someone with more energy, but they won't achieve the goals they want to--if you want to work out with Tony Little, then go find someone else." The thing was, I didn't want Tony Little, I truly believed that Rick was the best trainer, so I looked at him and said, "Yeah, well, start acting like it. My perception was that you didn't think I was ever coming back. Show some passion and people will perceive that you're the best."

My initial perception was that I was going to be looking for another trainer in a month, but in reality Rick and I will be working together for the next year. So, Rick's going to help me get into shape and I'm going to challenge his perceived emotions. I can tell this is the beginning of a great relationship.

Wednesday, January 6, 2010

Today's Question: Is Social Media Making Me Fat?

According to the fitness assessment I had done with my personal trainer (yep, I asked for this "gift" for Christmas), it has to be. Instead of burning calories picking up the phone or walking to a friend's house for a visit, I simply get online, post an update, comment on a photo and send a video link. I log on my laptop instead of logging miles on a pedometer and I'd rather be trekking through my Tweets then trekking through a park.

So, I've made a New Year's resolution and added "personal trainer sessions" to my outlook calendar for three times a week for the next 4 months! Perhaps this will only give me more energy to poke, tweet and message--but it had to be done!

I have to conclude that my obsession with social media is impacting my waistline. I'll keep you updated on my progress...thank goodness for mobile devices.

Happy New Year!